LighthouseWhen all is not well, we blame other forces. The person who really wants to do something finds a way; the other person finds an excuse. Why is your house this dirty, ‘my dear, you know I have three children, it’s difficult keeping up. Are you sure it is the children? were you tidy as a single woman? Have you not seen a woman with five children with a house as spotless as a hospital? You passed the exams because you have no children or responsibility.’I have three children and there is no time to study’, do you know I have an aunt that is a Professor with four children? Before the children did you ever pass an exams? do you know that you can wake up at night and study? do you know that you can stay back after the lectures and study for 30 mins? have you forgotten that when your baby sleeps you watch the television instead of reading? The person who really wants to do something finds a way; the other person finds an excuse.

Ibrahim!!! you should actually stop hitting your wife, ‘she provokes me always’ what! Is dat an excuse? do you know you can walk away? do you know that you can control yourself? it is called ‘self control’, do you know you can make peace with yourself? Uyai, you are so beautiful, when I was single, I was really beautiful. I made my hair every fortnight, but now there is no time. So that is why you look like a mad woman? Do you know that there are hair styles that can be worn for a month? what is wrong with your natural hair? do you know you can shampoo it, straighten it and look like a queen? maybe you need to be familiar with the phrase ‘house service’. When I was in school, I would borrow text books at the beginning of the semester, read through the chapters and make notes. When the results are pasted, Brenda will always say,’you are ‘brainy’ that is the reason for your success’. She forgot I borrowed her books, and that those books were meant to be read?

Do you know that excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure? do you also know no one ever excused his way to success? Success is a tale of obstacles overcome, and for every obstacle overcome, an excuse not used. You can make excuses or you can get the job done, but you can’t do both. A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else. People spend too much time finding people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past and getting on with their lives. Remember there is always a way to overcome any hurdle.