Dear me,

I am writing this letter to remind you of the ‘whys’ and priorities in your life. you have always been responsible for your success and the success of those around you. As a married partner, your marriage is very important to you. It must be protected at all cost. It is sacred to you. Cherish it, water it, build it into a castle, put all your effort into it and relax and enjoy the outcome. You know you can do it, all you need to do is to sit and focus on the now. The things of the past are already gone, the things of the future will come, what you have is NOW, make it worth living for.

Remember, procrastination is like a grave that must be buried, it has caused you a lot of bad waves in your relationship, avoid PROCRASTINATION, do it now. Of course, it is difficult, start scheduling your activities and most importantly, put all your thoughts in writing. With goals in mind, the most logical thing is to write it down. Glass houses are built first from a thrust in the soil.

Complains about you are bound to come, always look into it with a positive mind and promise yourself to change. In as much as most people are very good in complaining always and without a reason, and in the form of criticism, sift out the main ingredients and work on it. No man achieves great success who is unwilling to make personal sacrifices.

It is a fact that the majority of a man’s grief come through lack of self-control. If your deeds are constructive and you are at peace with yourself, in your own heart, you will not find it necessary to stop and explain your motives, for they will explain themselves. The world soon forgets its destroyers. It builds its monuments to and bestows its honours  upon none but its builders. Keep this fact in mind and you will more easily reconcile yourself with the policy of refusing to waste your energies by ‘striking back’ at those who offend you.

Anger is what I am trying to explain. Repressed emotion , especially the emotion of hatred is like a bomb constructed with high explosives. A feeling of anger may be rendered harmless by giving a positive expression to it. First of all, gain possession of your thought. You do not only have the power to think , but to control your thoughts and make them do your bidding.

Self-control is solely a matter of thought-control.

Always place your thoughts positively to harmonize with your ‘why’ and definite chief aim. Your spouse may rant, vent so much anger and say some hurtful things, as long as your thought is still positively guided, you have succeeded in putting the situation under control. Do not provoke the anger by gesticulations, actions, or by singing(Satan is not the devil, you are).

SAY IT.Never bear grudges. Say exactly how you feel in a clear and honest manner. Accept your mistakes and faults, you would be surprised the doors of the heart it will open and the positive atmosphere it will create.

Hearts , like doors, can open with ease, to very, very little keys; And don’t forget that they are these: ‘thank you’ and ‘am sorry’.

Today is a day of love, this is the only present I can give myself.

Happy valentines day.